With Valentine’s Day approaching it is a good time to reflect on this love myth; that possessive desire is truly caring.

We have all heard of “crimes of passion” but this is confusing love with abuse.  Love and abuse are actually true opposites and have no compatibility together for a psychologically, emotionally and physically healthy relationship.

Here are some questions to ask yourself to see if you’re involved with a love myth:

You don’t feel like equals in your relationship?

Do you feel disrespected in your relationship?

Your partner wears away at your self-esteem and independence?

Love is not given and received in equal ways?

“You hurt the ones you love most”?

Powerful emotions are a wonderful part of beginning a relationship and are there to reinforce the positive aspects of the relationship.  Couples can have passionate and emotionally fulfilling relationships while still being able to handle conflict, disagreement, and independence in a respectful and supportive way.

If you or someone you know is struggling with domestic abuse or possessive desire, or you’d like to learn more about services offered, please contact the Intake Department at Specialized Therapy Associates at 201.488.6678 to hear about our individual and group services.  You can also call the National Abuse Hotline (800) 799-7233.