• The limits and rules we set for ourselves and within relationships, to protect our well-being
• Knowing our limits in a given situation, knowing what’s acceptable to us,  and what isn’t
• Knowing our values
• Having self-respect, meaning acknowledging our needs, not just another person’s
• Having respect for others, not being self-serving
• Being assertive, saying no without ambiguity

Why are Personal Boundaries important?

• They are a safeguard to overextending yourself.
• They are a self-care practice. 
• They define roles in relationships. 
• They communicate acceptable and unacceptable behaviors in relationships.
• They are parameters for knowing what to expect in relationships. 
• They are a way that you ask people to show up by upholding your needs.
• They are a way to create clarity. 
• They are a way to feel safe. 

How do I know what my Personal Boundaries are and how do I set them?

• Define them
• Examine experiences and notice where boundaries are lacking
• Connect to the intuitive voice (the feelings, sensations in your body, such as feeling pressure in your chest)

Quick Exercise

1. Think about a past, present, or future experience. Example: How do you feel when you think about, say, seeing an old friend?
2. Does your chest tighten? (Think about your feelings, sensations in your body, thoughts)
3. Is there a feeling of resentment leading up to it? (“Ugh I don’t want to go” could be a related thought)
4. How about during the meeting? Do you feel energized, calm, nourished, or depleted, guarded, and limited?

Types of Boundaries

Physical Boundaries

• The amount of personal space, physical contact, that is most comfortable for you and your preferred timing for physical contact
• Your overall comfort with verbal comments on your appearance, sexuality, etc.
• Your overall comfort with sharing your personal space (apartment, bedroom, office, etc.) with others (including friends, partners, colleagues, etc.), sharing personal digital passwords, etc. 

Mental/Emotional Boundaries

• Your overall comfort with sharing your personal thoughts, opinions, and beliefs with others without changing them to match those of another or insisting that others change to match yours
• Your ability to choose which personal thoughts, opinions, and beliefs, you share with others without feeling it necessary to overshare or attempting to insist that they overshare

Resource Boundaries

• Your ability to exercise choice around where and how your time is spent, avoiding any tendency toward people pleasing, etc. and to allow others to have a similar choice
• Your ability to negate personal responsibility for others’ emotions, avoiding the tendency to play the role of “fixer” or to make others responsible for your emotions
• Your ability to limit the amount of time spent on venting problems on the part of either person

Examples:

Physical: Friend makes jokes about other people’s weight

Change needed: You want them to stop

Mental/Emotional: A friend often emotionally dumps about her ex-boyfriend

Change needed: You want a more reciprocal relationship

Resource: Friend insists on a venue closer to their house than to your dwelling

Change needed: You want to meet at a more fair location for consideration of your driving time

Identify the specific commonly crossed boundaries to identify changes you would like to see. Use the following prompts:

My physical self feels uncomfortable/unsafe when _____________ (friend makes comments about my appearance)

To create space for my physical self to feel more comfortable/safe, I_________ (I will no longer be around people who do this)

My mental/emotional self feels uncomfortable/unsafe when _____________ (my family member makes comments about my new health choices)

To create space for my mental/emotional  self to feel more comfortable/safe, I_________ (I will no longer defend, argue about my personal health choices)

My resources feel  uncomfortable/unsafe when _____________ (my cousin call me at all hours to talk)

To create space for my resources to feel more comfortable/safe, I_________ (I will no longer take those calls)

References:

LePera, Nicole. How to do the Work; Recognize your patterns, heal from your past, and create your self: New York, HarperCollins, 2021

Tawwab, Nedra Glover. Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A guide to reclaiming yourself: New York, TarcherPerigee, an imprint of Penguin Random House LLC, 2021

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Relationships can be challenging in many ways. A common type of difficulty found in relationships is nurturing a balance between priorities and demands.
Priorities are those aspects of life that are important to you and that you want to invest time doing. Priorities are important in that they help us develop interests, a sense of identity and promote reliability. An example would be when someone prioritizes an exercise workout after work. If you spend too much time on your priorities, though, it could put a strain on your relationships as other people may feel neglected or unimportant.
Demands are things that are important to other people and that they would like to see you spend time on. All relationships have demands. Whether implied or overtly stated, the people who are important to us have expectations of how we invest our time. An example would be a spouse wanting time to talk about their feelings. If we only spend our time catering to the demands of others, most likely will feel increased stress and become resentful.
Therefore it is really important to find a balance between priorities and demands in relationships. With balance, you and the people who are important to you will feel fulfillment in the relationships. One strategy to promote this type of balance is to incorporate mutual validation into your daily communication. For example, if you were asked to cook dinner after a hard day of work, you could say something like ‘I know it’s only fair that I pull my weight in cooking tonight, on my end, I’ve had a really hard day, maybe we could get take out and I will plan to cook this weekend?’ By incorporating this communication strategy, you are nurturing a balance between your priorities and the demands of others.
Improving interpersonal effectiveness is a topic incorporated in the DBT group provided at Specialized Therapy Associates. Should you have any interest in this group, please call 201-488-6678 for details.

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For example, while the spontaneity of someone with ADHD may be attractive to a potential partner, the ADHD person’s focus on the present and consequent lack of follow-through may become unwelcome to the non-ADHD spouse as time passes. A person with ADHD experiences the world in terms of now and not now. Being spontaneous is living in the now. Memory is about the past and planning is about the future, both not now. People with ADHD often excel at enjoying the present but have difficulty when it comes to taking care of things later on.

Each of the difficulties mentioned above for the ADHD person can contribute to problems in a marriage. What tends to happen it that the problematic behavior of the person with ADHD generates a response in the non-ADHD spouse that itself becomes a problem in the relationship. The person with ADHD promises their spouse to take care of a task later on, which is in the not now. When they make the promise, they do intend to carry it out later on. However, later on they are in a new present moment. When they made the promise is now in the past, the not now. They forget to do the task. Forgetting is something that happens to us all occasionally. But for the person with ADHD, the forgetting happens over and over.

The non-ADHD spouse gets tired of the forgotten promises and the undone tasks. They often tell themselves that if they don’t do it, it won’t get done. So, they often wind up doing more and more of the household tasks and wind up resenting it more and more. One thing we all do is generate attributions, or explanations, to ourselves for why things happen, particularly things that happen to us. The non-ADHD spouse winds up thinking negative things about their partner.  “They’re lazy, they don’t care, they think of me as their servant.” They can begin relating to their ADHD spouse as another child in the family who has to be taken care of.

In the meantime, the person with ADHD, who tries for a while to improve their behavior after being criticized by their non-ADHD spouse, eventually comes to believe that whatever they do is not good enough and they begin to think that their efforts won’t ever be recognized. The ADHD spouse often loses their motivation to keep trying. A vicious cycle of criticism and avoidance develops between the two spouses that can ruin the marriage if unrecognized and left untreated.

Melissa Orlov went down this spiral, but rather than let her marriage be destroyed, decided to change her responses to her ADHD husband and so she saved her marriage. She used what she learned the hard way and wrote two books to help couples, one or both of whom have ADHD, to save their marriage. The book titles are The ADHD Effect on Marriage and The Couple’s Guide to Thriving with ADHD. She also has a website, www.adhdmarriage.com, devoted to providing up-to-date information to couples struggling with ADHD in their marriage.

She states that the spouse with ADHD first needs to recognize that they have ADHD and then needs to seek treatment for it. The treatment is often medication but not always so. Then both partners need to change their incorrect attributions about the others’ behavior and trade their destructive responses to each other for positive methods to identify day-to-day problems and develop strategies to solve these problems. She acknowledges that this process is not easy but, based on the imperfect but happy marriage she now says she has, she encourages her readers to make the efforts to save their marriages too.

If you are the spouse with ADHD or the spouse without ADHD and you want to save your marriage, then you can start with checking out Melissa Orlov’s website, read one or both of her books or get personal help from one of the therapists at STA who specializes in helping people with ADHD. Call us at 201-488-6678 if you want help to make the changes that are likely to improve your marriage.

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The holiday season undoubtedly has an impact on the mental health of adolescent and adult populations. There is a U-shaped curve that happens in psychotic episodes and psychiatric emergency room hospitalizations during the Christmas season¹. Cases of psychotic episodes and emergency room hospitalization for self-harm behavior and suicide attempts actually decreases during the weeks leading up to the holidays¹– a testament to the unadulterated joy that humanity shares in the weeks between Thanksgiving and the New Year. However, there is a subsequent rise in patients admitted to the hospital for psychiatric events of similar magnitude directly following the holiday season. This shows that the holidays have a protective effect on psychological well-being. However, this protective effect is merely an outward illusion of cheer and joyousness projected onto our inner selves, a temporary state that disappears once the holiday season is over. After the holidays, there is a well-documented rebound effect that shows increased psychological sequelae and hospitalizations in susceptible people. This raises concern for people already at risk for self-harm and suicidal behavior prior to the weeks leading up to the holiday season.¹ Mental health practitioners should be aware of this spike in cases and intervene with coping mechanisms for patients to bypass the holiday-season-high comedown.

Although psychiatric events and hospitalizations for self-harm and suicide are low during the holidays, cases of depression are still present and sometimes even higher, especially in those that don’t have close relationships with friends or family members¹. These individuals may feel as though they are “missing out” or that everybody around them is having a good time engaging in loving relationships except for them. This is simply not true, but the individual’s perception of the holiday season can send them into spiraling feelings of loneliness and solitude. For this reason, an individual that spends the holiday season by themself should focus on increasing their self-care routine through activities that bring them joy, getting enough sleep, healthy eating, mindful walking, yoga, meditation, exercise, and practicing gratitude^1,2.

With the anxiety and worry that surrounds the holiday season, it is no doubt that alcohol intake increases during this time. Whether it’s to relax or calm the anxiety that comes with being around family, alcohol is often the substance of choice to dim the stressors that accompany the holiday. This is noteworthy because the number of alcohol-related deaths increases during the holiday season.¹ In addition, drinking an excess on a particular occasion, especially for someone that rarely drinks, can trigger cardiac abnormalities. This is so common around the holiday season that it actually coined the term, “holiday heart syndrome”². For this reason, responsible drinking should be advised, and a means of transportation should be pre-determined before the events of the day(s).

Instead of indulging in alcohol, consider having true and authentic conversations with your family members. Catch up with one another, connect, stay present, share a laugh, or shed a tear together. Now more than ever we need to hold space for the ones that we love most, free of judgment especially at the end of such a difficult year.

If you would like more guidance on how to beat the stress of the holidays, please contact Specialized Therapy Associates at (201)-488-6678 to make an appointment. You can also visit us online at Specialized Therapy.

By Taylor Groff, MS Functional Nutritionist

References:

1. Sansone RA, Sansone LA. The Christmas effect on psychopathology. Innov Clin Neurosci. 2011;8(12):10-13.
2. Lushniak BD. Surgeon general’s perspectives. Public Health Rep. 2013;128(6):434-435. doi:10.1177/003335491312800602

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How much do you think about the future? How much do you care about the future? Understanding a bit about how dopamine, one of the neurotransmitters in our brain, influences our behavior can help us understand our changing experience in a romantic relationship. In the book, The Molecule of More, authors Daniel Lieberman, M.D. and Michael Long explain how dopamine is the neurotransmitter in our brain firing the circuits that make us care about the future and how this changes in a romantic relationship.

How We Experience Pleasure

What is in our immediate grasp is our present; anything beyond that is in our future. Our peripersonal space contains what is in our grasp. Anything beyond that is in our extrapersonal space. The brain evolved two different circuits and neurotransmitters for these two separate parts of our experience.
Serotonin, oxytocin, endorphins, and endocannabinoids mediate our pleasure in the present. They are involved in our feeling good when we reach a goal and sit back to enjoy the fruits or of labor. In the 1950s scientists mistakenly thought that it is dopamine that helps us experience pleasure. Many people still think of dopamine that way.

However, now we know that dopamine cells fire when we react to the unexpected, to possibilities that the future might hold for us. It’s not about pleasure, it’s about anticipation. we’re not focused on what we have now and can enjoy. We’refocused on what we want to have in the future. We are wired to crave the unexpected. We are constantly making predictions about what the future holds for us. When it is better than what we expected, our dopamine cells fire, urging us to pursue that future. Dopamine drives the circuits in our brain that lead us to try to control the world so as to maximize our obtaining the resources we need from it in the future.

Long-Lasting Love

When someone meets another and is attracted to them, the other person often seems like the perfect person to them. The person imagines all kinds of wonderful experiences that they hope will happen with this new person. It’s all so new and exciting. Guess which neurotransmitter is producing that exciting anticipation. Right, it’s dopamine. That head-in-the-clouds feeling, that passionate love, lasts from twelve to eighteen months, according to Rutgers anthropologist Helen Fisher.

After that period of time, the novelty of the relationship fades. The dopamine cells aren’t firing anymore. Some people interpret this as falling out of love and think that it means that they have to move on. It doesn’t mean that love is over, only that the love they experience has changed to what is called companionate love. It’s not about what future fantasies will be realized with the one they love; it’s about loving that person in the here and now, mediated by those neurotransmitters and hormones mentioned above. The person is now satisfied with their present reality in an enduring manner. When a person is driven by dopamine, they aren’t satisfied for long. But someone who has made the transition to companionate love is on the road to long-lasting happiness.

Understanding how the neurotransmitters in our brains influence our behavior certainly helps us make sense of our experiences. Sometimes just understanding is not enough, though. Sometimes it’s helpful to talk to someone who knows about neurotransmitters but also knows a lot about helping someone navigate their way through the transitions that develop as the relationship progresses. If you’re experiencing the painful feelings that also can be a part of a relationship, then you might want to consider speaking to one of the knowledgeable and caring therapists at STA .  If so, give a call to 201-488-6678.

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Being a People Pleaser can hurt your own mental health.

A people pleaser is a type of person who are “too nice”, almost always putting everyone else’s needs before their own. They never say “no”, are always volunteering to help, and make sure that everyone else’s needs are met first before they worry about themselves. It may sound like a good thing to always help others but this can quickly lead to emotional and physical burnout. Common examples include:

• Agreeing to cover a shift or pick up a project at work that you know you cannot do
• Not doing activities that you want to do because it may bother other people
• Doing things that you don’t want to or can’t do because you’re afraid others will be mad at you if you say no
• Experiencing guilt at the thought of saying “no” to someone
• Being afraid people would not like you if they knew the real you
• Having a hard time sharing your true feelings
• Going to great lengths to avoid conflict
• Becoming very uncomfortable at the thought of someone being mad at you

All of these qualities point to the larger theme that you are the last priority in your own life. An important step for healthier well being is learning to put your own needs first. Recognizing that you are not responsible for anyone else’s feelings, not their happiness, sadness, anger, etc.  Sharing your wants and needs in an assertive and healthy way reduces people pleasing behavior  and is a critical step in your own journey of wellness. Meaning, you are able to stand up for your own needs and still be respectful of the other person.

If you’re interested in learning more or taking the next step in avoiding the negative aspects of  being a people pleaser and putting yourself first, please visit us at https://www.specializedtherapy.com/ or call 201-488-6678.

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Apprehension about kids and technology is nothing new. Years ago, when it was first introduced, cable television was considered to be a serious risk to the healthy development of children. Today we don’t think twice about it. Closed-mindedness or even fear about new technology holds us back from developing a balanced view of the benefits and risks associated with it. The truth is that technology allows children access to invaluable resources and learning opportunities but also creates real parenting challenges.

Digital literacy and effective parenting

Digital literacy refers to the set of skills we need to survive in the digital age, including communication and collaboration on social media, the ability to find, select, and evaluate information, cultural and societal understanding, and critical thinking. Parents who spend time to become digitally literate are able to make informed decisions. They know and enforce limits appropriately. Digitally literate parents are able to effectively and fairly  moderate the duration, content, and quality of their child’s digital involvement.

Effective parenting requires a balance between flexibility and firmness. Restricting children builds resistance, while guiding them builds judgement. Several strategies to use in communicating about digital use include:

•Offer information about choices, consequences and responsibility

• Prepare, don’t scare

•Offer problem solving and guidance

•Be firm about your expectations and values. Encourage and support your child’s curiosity by demonstrating how the internet can be used as a tool for learning and self-discovery.

Prepare your children for a healthy digital behavior.

Talk to your child about internet safety and their growing digital literacy before it becomes an issue. It is important for every parent to understand that information in the cyber-universe is permanent and not difficult to retrieve to be used against you given proper motivation.  It is  very important to ask your children who they talk to online or if they have friends they only know online. Find out If they talk to someone who upsets or worries them. Make sure they feel they can come to you if they have any uncomfortable exchanges on the web. Are they sharing pictures of themselves? Make sure your child knows that they can talk to you if they are feeling pressured into sending or receiving personal or sexual images.

Warning signs of problematic digital behavior: What signs to look for.

Secretive behavior, evasive answers, excessive time spent on the internet. Upset during or after use. Late night or all-night texting. Diminished in person social contact.

Remember:
As James Baldwin states “Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.” A parent who is constantly on their phone encourages the same behavior in their children.

At times, we may feel powerless to establish a more effective parenting style that balances between flexibility and firmness and need help of a professional to ease our mind and guide us on a more fruitful path. To get help you want, please call 201-488-6678, click here,  or fill out a form below.

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Increasing your immunity during the Crononavirus seems like a daunting task. It seems like there are a million things we can’t control, one of the things we can influence is our health, resilience, and well-being.

While these tips will not guarantee you won’t get sick, they will enhance your body’s ability to fight infection and can support recovery if you do get sick. Of course, follow the recommendations of the CDC, World Health Organization, your local officials, and personal physician.

Tips to Strengthen Your Immunity

Stay well hydrated with plenty of fresh filtered water. Aim for half of your body weight in ounces. If needed, add slices of citrus, berries, or even fresh herbs to your water for added flavor without added chemicals or sweetener.

Eliminate alcohol and added sugars. According to MD Mark Hyman,  “Studies have shown that refined sugars can suppress your immune system for hours after ingesting. Limiting starch and sugar will help your immune system function better.” Use fruit such as grapes, pineapple, or berries to satisfy a sweet tooth. If sweetener is called for, try small amounts of organic, raw, local honey.

Get 7-8 hours of quality sleep. If you are having difficulty sleeping, take a warm bath before bed. Reduce light, especially blue light and noise. Use a sound machine or white noise app. Try a meditation app and stay off media or other charged content for 2-3 hours before bed.

Add in gentle to moderate movement. Rigorous workouts are not needed to support immunity. In fact, extreme workouts or fitness regimens may increase inflammation (do not engage in vigorous exercise if you are sick). Good choices include walking, biking, yoga, or low-intensity interval training.

Get plenty of sunshine. While keeping a safe distance from others, try to get outside when the sun is out. The sun is our original source of vitamin D. It helps regulate circadian rhythms, and can enhance sleep, energy, and mood. Get your D levels checked to determine how much you may need to supplement.

Maintain a Sense of  Social Community

Staying  connected to family and friends online or by phone is one way to improve immunity during the coronavirus pandemic. Isolation affects our mental and physical health. Join an online community of like-minded individuals or connect to one of the many global gatherings that are being offered for free during this time.

Laugh. Ever hear the phrase, “laughter is the best medicine”? Laughter increases feel-good chemicals in the brain, boosts mood, and reduces stress. Watch something silly like babies giggling, look up goofy riddles, or play games with your kids.

De-stress. High levels of stress compromise your immune system. Use meditation, mindfulness, and breathing practices. Spend time in nature. Reduce your exposure to sensationalized news stories.

Increase whole nutrient-dense foods, especially vegetables. If you ever wanted to see what the recommended 7-9 servings of vegetables look like, now’s the time. See below for a few immune-boosting superstars:

Foods to Add-In

Whole food sources of protein: pastured eggs, grass-fed meats, wild cold-water fish, lentils, organic tempeh if plant-based. Foods high in zinc including seafood, grass-fed meat, and eggs. Other vegetarian options high in zinc include pumpkin seeds, sesame seeds, dark leafy greens, beans.

Foods high vitamin C including in lemons, another citrus, red bell peppers, Camu Camu, spinach, sweet potatoes, broccoli, strawberries, and kiwi.

Foods high in probiotics: onion, garlic, asparagus, artichokes, jicama, chicory root
Anti-inflammatory, antimicrobial herbs, and spices such as ginger, garlic, turmeric, cinnamon, thyme, oregano, rosemary, and cayenne pepper. Filtered water, herbal teas, raw coconut water. Broth and soups, preferably homemade.

• Foods to Eliminate to boost Immunity during the coronavirus
  • Excess caffeine
  • Alcohol
  • Refined sugar
  • Processed foods
  • Dairy
  • Not food, but smoking and vaping are risk factors for an illness of all types.

While this is a time of heightened anxiety, remember that this too shall pass. If you are experiencing anxiety or would like support to implement the above strategies, reach out for support from a qualified professional.

Call 201-488-6678 to access virtual mental health or health and lifestyle coaching services.

By Anna Sandbank, LCSW, INHC, Director of Integrative Mind-Body Health, Specialized Therapy Associates, Fx Med Centers, Xceptional You

Disclaimer: This post is for informational purposes only. It does not constitute medical advice or replace treatment or intervention by a qualified medical or mental health professional.

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Gender identity and expression are key elements to the way a child or teen perceives themselves and the world around them. For transgender children and teens, acceptance and support from family is essential.

Research has shown that support from family can reduce the risk of anxiety, depression, and substance abuse in trans children and teens. Furthermore, family support can prevent suicide and self-injurious behaviors. Familial support can help reduce the impact of bullying that a transgender child or teen may experience socially.

What is Gender Dysphoria?

Gender dysphoria is not considered a mental illness. Gender dysphoria means that a person identifies as a gender that is not the same as the gender they were assigned at birth. Transgender teens and adults often experience a feeling of disconnect between their assigned gender and how they identify themselves. This gender dysphoria can cause emotional pain. This is especially true when their feelings are not understood or validated by others.

5 Ways to Support your Transgender Child or Teen

1. Express unconditional love and support to your child.
2. Advocate for your child to promote a safe and secure environment at home and at school.
3. Encourage your child to advocate for themselves.
4. Educate yourself about supporting your transgender child. Explore resources and support groups.
5. Use the preferred gender pronouns and names for your child (ask them!)

More Resources

The Trevor Project provides multiple resources to support LGBTQ youth.
PFLAG supports the families, friends and allies of LGBTQ people and provides information on support groups around the country.
The Human Rights Campaign provides a transgender children and youth page.

For additional support, consider seeking therapy services for yourself, your family, or your child. For information about therapy services, please contact Specialized Therapy Services Intake department at (201)-488-6678 or contact us online at Specialized Therapy Associates.

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Here are some simple reasons why you should consider seeing a therapist.

1. They provide a judgment-free zone where you can discuss anything your heart desires.

2. You may discover a new perspective on your life by attending therapy.

3. You will learn concrete tools to help you better cope with life stressors.

4.  You will learn healthier ways of thinking and adapting to life’s problems.

5.  If you have experienced a trauma or major life change you should consider seeing a therapist.

6.  If you have started to feel like you can no longer talk to your friends and family about your problems then talking to a licensed professional may be right for you.

7. Therapy is a way to practice self-care.

8. A therapist can offer you the tools to have a wider perspective on your problems.

If you or a  loved one could benefit from seeing a therapist, please feel free to reach out to Specialized Therapy Associates at (201) 488-6678 to be connected with our intake department.

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